My journey into fatherhood happened extremely unexpectedly.
I was 28-years-old when my then girlfriend had Whatsapped me with an image of the
pregnancy test. The two bright red lines indicating that she was expecting a baby
ushered that memorable morning.
Naturally I was afraid, nervous and a little anxious. But I have made my mind to
spend the rest of my life with Ista long before the arrival of this news.
After sitting down and discussing if we wanted the baby, we stuck through with our
decision and it has been worth it.
Here are five things I've learned after becoming a father to a shotgun baby.
1. My parents were right.
When I was a kid, I used to feel that the approach my parents had used on me were
I was a mischievous kid and used to be pretty demanding when it came to toys. My
parents were not wealthy so there were times when they would have to decline my
I used to wail and protest. I also used to feel terrible for being raised in a financially
"You just wait until you have children of your own," my mother used to say, before
explaining the need to save the money instead of spending it.
Thinking back about those times, they were spot on. My respect for them has only
grown now that I am a parent myself.
2. I became financially literate.
More like I was forced to.
Having zero knowledge when it came to financial matters, I used to believe that
money was the root of all evil. Yes, I was pretty silly back then.
Now that I'm a father and a husband, I see how important money is and how crucial it
is to have goals in life.
The first two years of fatherhood was difficult for us financially as I was lost in terms
of what to do with my life. But I'm glad my daughter's presence kicked my ass to
getting things done.
I now see the value and importance in saving and investing not only money, but time
and effort for the future of my lineage.
3. Adapted to think creatively.
Being a parent is not a walk in the park.
How would you handle a kid who throws a tantrum in the middle of a public space?
Or worst, how do you deal with a toddler who does not want to go to sleep?
Yes, there are terrible parents out there but there are also some genuinely awesome
Being a father has only made me develope and enhance my creative thinking skills
and surprise, surprise. They're pretty useful at work too.
4. I quit smoking.
Of all the things I've learned, I'm a little apprehensive to celebrate this achievement
though this is no doubt a milestone in my life.
I have been a smoker for the past nine years and after becoming a father, I decided
to omit this habit for good from my life.
It all happened after I got home from a smoke break when my daughter said, "Papa, if you smoke, your heart will turn black."
It has not been easy but I've been smoke free for close to two months now.
5. Taught me patience.
I think many parents can attest to this.
Sometimes I fail and do get angry (my daughter is as mischievous as I was), but I
have been much more mindful when it comes to dealing with difficult scenarios and
Being a parent has certainly made me appreciate the importance of taking a step
back, not being prejudicial but objective when it comes to handling issues.
I am constantly reminded that we are all prone to mistakes and that it is alright to
What are some lessons you've learned after becoming a parent?